Monday, July 30, 2012

When a lover cheats...

Photo from here.
The latest Hollywood buzz is Kristen Stewart's cheating on Robert Pattinson with her Snow White and the Huntsman director Rupert Sanders who is married to a British actress, Liberty Ross. She happened to play Kristen's mother in the movie (ha!).

When the photos of the two making out surfaced, Kristen immediately apologized to Rob through People Magazine, saying:
"I am deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment I've caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected. This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important things in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I'm so sorry."
Immediately after Kristen's public apology, Rupert made his also through People Magazine:
"I am utterly distraught about the pain I have caused my family. My beautiful wife and heavenly children are all I have in this world. I love then with all my heart. I am praying that we get through this together."
Rob, soon after, packed his things from the house he shares with Kristen. Obviously, he is deeply hurt and needs some time alone to sort things out about his relationship.

What do you do when a lover cheats?

I was twice a victim of cheating. The first one admitted his mistake and apologized for it. While the other one, despite all the evidences, vehemently denies it... even until now.

I actually forgave the first one who cheated on me. I ended the relationship but we became friends after ward. The other one,  I cannot say that I have already fully forgiven him. Only time will tell if I could be civil, if not friends, with him.

Cheating or being unfaithful, among other things, is a violation of trust. Love is founded on trust and if ever that foundation has lost its integrity, more often than not, the relationship is bound to its bitter end.

According to Matthew 5:28...
"But I tell you than anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." 
According to Proverbs 23:27-28...
"For a prostitute is a deep pit; an adulteress is a narrow well. She lies in wait like a robber and increases the traitors among mankind."

When you learn about cheating, the normal initial reactions would be anger and hurt. After that, you go through denial stage... the cheating happened but you pretend that it never actually did. You put a face to protect the relationship although deep inside you feel shattered into pieces. The worst part, when you finally decide to end the relationship, you begin to blame yourself. You ask yourself if you have done something that made him do such a thing. You hurt and hurt over again until such time when you could no longer find answers to your questions, you finally accept that sometimes there are things that just aren't meant to be and the hurt miraculously disappears.

According to Matthew 6:15-16...
"For if you forgive others their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
I remember a story of a friend who was also cheated. She fell in love with the guy, married him and after just 9 months, the man packed his things for another woman. What hurts even more is that the woman is carrying her husband's child. Everything she knew about the guy were all lies. He married her for her money. She was harassed by the woman, accusing her of so many unbearable things. She filed for annulment to protect her finances and investments. She told me she is willing to forgive, but she will never forget.

I heard another story of unfaithfulness just recently. There is this married woman with two lovely kids who thought her husband is the most faithful man in the world. One day, her husband went home with a woman who is pregnant and claims the unborn child as his. It was devastating. I don't know what I would do if I were in her shoes.

They say a man or woman cheats because their significant other could not fill in or fit in a role they want. Others say they do it for the excitement and thrill of not being caught. I say, those who cheat give the worst excuses. If you can't be faithful, do not pursue a relationship... it is just not right to play with emotions.

According to James 5:16...
"Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."

And if you have been cheated, the best revenge is to be the best person that you can be. Pray. Love again.

Tonight's Dinner: Pineapple Chicken

My mom told me that when she was pregnant with me, she's fond of eating pineapples... we call it in the Philippines as pinaglihihan. Pineapple is not one of my favorite fruits because I don't like my food sour. I won't eat it unless somebody tells me it is of the sweet kind.

So why did I cook a dish with pineapples?

I don't have much ingredients in my kitchen. The things that are available are chicken, evaporated milk, bell pepper and pineapple tidbits. I was thinking of cooking adobo but it was just last night that we had soy sauce based dish for dinner.

Well, it turned out delicious... my son could attest to that because he only eats chicken when it is barbecued, fried or if it is adobo.

If you like to try this dish, here is the recipe:

Saturday, July 28, 2012

New Book: Fifty Shades of Grey by E. L. James

I have been hearing a lot of buzz about how good a book Fifty Shades of Grey is by E. L. James. An office mate bought a copy three weeks ago and I am waiting for her to finish so that I can borrow it. Well, I no longer have to wait for my office mate. I finally had a chance to buy the e-book version via Amazon. I am now on page 51 and I can say that excitement over the next chapters is already building up on me.

Photo from here.
The book is so famous that it will be made into a movie and  Ian Somerhalder has been mounting a campaign for  months now for him to play the character of Christian Grey. I think his looks alone could earn him the role. What do you think?

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Dream Interpretation: Fiend, Fish, Friend

I had a very emotional dream last night.

I confronted a past lover about some property that I invested. I found out he had it leased without my permission. I slapped him so many times on his face while there were flashbacks of the many evil things he did to me. He said sorry but I did not accept his apology. I walked out of the place fuming with anger.

The next scene of my dream was at a pond where there are plenty of fishes. The water was so clear that I could see all the fishes swimming about. I sat on a boulder and leaned to touch the water. Fishes began to swam towards me. I tried to catch them but they just slip away.

The last scene of my dream was at a restaurant where I met my two best buds. We chatted and laughed. They made me forget my very emotional encounter.


According to Dream Moods, to dream of a former lover signifies unresolved issues with the person. Perhaps your current relationship is awakening some of those same issues. Being angry in your dream may have been carried over in your waking life as dreams function as a safe outlet where you can express your strong and negative emotions.

To see fish swimming in your dream signifies insights from the subconscious. To catch a fish represents insights which have been brought to the surface. Also, a fish swimming may symbolize conception. Fish is also an ancient symbol of Christianity and its beliefs. It may also imply an elusive situation. It could also mean the old adage "there are plenty of other fish in the sea" with regards to some relationship issue.

Friends in a dream signifies aspects of your personality that you have rejected but are ready to incorporate and acknowledge. It could also mean positive news. Alternatively, it signifies regression into your past where you had no responsibilities, where things are much simpler and carefree. You may have been wanting to escape the pressures and stresses of adulthood.

State of the Nation Address (SONA) 2012 English Translation

For the benefit of my readers who do not understand Tagalog, here is the English translation.

Senate President Juan Ponce Enrile; Speaker Feliciano Belmonte; Vice President Jejomar Binay; former Presidents Fidel Valdez Ramos and Joseph Ejercito Estrada; eminent Justices of the Supreme Court; distinguished members of the diplomatic corps; honorable members of the House of Representatives and of the Senate; our leaders in local government; members of our Cabinet; uniformed officers of the military and of the police; my fellow public servants;
And to my Bosses, the Filipino people: a pleasant afternoon to all.

Monday, July 23, 2012

State of the Nation Address (SONA) 2012

At excatly 4PM today, President Benigno C. Aguino III delivered his third State of the Nation Address (SONA) at the Batasan Hall. The third time around, he delivered it in the Philippine's native tongue-Tagalog.

His speech was one of the longest in Philippine history, making sure that no important issue was forgotten. And while everyone in the hall was listening and applauding the President for the accomplishments of his cabinet, hundreds of militant groups rallied all around the Metro to contest the president's SONA, claiming that the real state of the nation happens outside the four walls of the hall.

Given that there are still poor Filipinos, many are still victims of injustice, and prices of commodities are still rising... did they ever ask themselves "What have I contributed so far?"


Senate President Juan Ponce Enrile; Speaker Feliciano Belmonte; Bise Presidente Jejomar Binay; mga dating Pangulong Fidel Valdez Ramos at Joseph Ejercito Estrada; ang ating mga kagalang-galang na mahistrado ng Korte Suprema; mga kagalang-galang na kagawad ng kalipunang diplomatiko; mga kagalang-galang na miyembro ng Kamara de Representante at ng Senado; mga pinuno ng pamahalaang lokal; mga miyembro ng ating Gabinete; mga unipormadong kasapi ng militar at kapulisan; mga kapwa kong nagseserbisyo sa taumbayan; 

At sa akin pong mga boss, magandang hapon po. 

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Yummy foods galore!

Buttered cream dory with crispy eggplant, bakchoy and soy with coriander rice.
Here are the delicious foods I was able to eat during my two days of seminar at the Makati Shangri-La. It was a feast for both the eyes and the stomach! I still get hungry looking at their pictures...

Wedding Cake Toppers

I have many girl friends who got married in the US. I was not able to attend to all of their weddings because I live half way around the globe so when I received an invitation for a close friend's wedding last February, I was ecstatic. The wedding was held in Our Lady of Lourdes Church while the reception was held at Taal Vista Hotel--both in Tagaytay City. The couple looked so in love even more.

I don't know about you, but aside from anxiously looking at how beautiful the bride and her gown is, I also get giddy looking at wedding cakes. My friend's wedding cake was simple. It had four layers, the top layer with their effigies as wedding cake toppers was the main cake. The other layers were cupcakes decorated with colorful icings. And in all the weddings that I have attended, maybe there is some superstitious belief attached to it, the couples keep their wedding cake toppers. Until now, whenever I go to their houses, their toppers are still there sitting quietly in their cupboards.

Saturday, July 14, 2012

The saddest rain...

My prayer...

Please don't let him know the difference between my teardrops and the raindrops when he sees me crying in the rain. I'd rather drown in my own tears than to know that he can tell the difference and yet he does nothing to wipe them off my face.

I am sad. I have never been this sad but surprisingly, I do not have the energy to cry. It seems I have already consumed all my crying energies in the past.

If there is one valuable lesson that I have learned, it is to not force happiness. Do not force people to fill that void in your life, they will fill the gap but when they realize it is not the thing that they want and it doesn't make them happy, they will leave an even bigger space that will leave you feeling half alive.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Goodbye, Dolphy

Rodolfo Vera Quizon, more popularly known as Dolphy, passed away yesterday at around 8:34PM in Makati Medical Center due to Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease. He is 83 years old.

Dolphy is known in the Philippines as the King of Comedy. He began acting in 1946 in the movie Dugo at Bayan. He was able to made almost two hundred movies. His most memorable portrayals were Jack & Jill, Facifica Falayfay, John en Marsha, Home Along da Riles and Markova. His last movie, Father Jejemon, was shown in 2010.

My generation practically grew up watching Home Along da Riles. It is a story about a striving single father who lives along a railway together with his children. It taught us that despite his family's circumstances, for as long as there is love and unity among them, they will surpass any problem. He portrayed the character as a responsible father who always see the positive side of things.

His comedic style is yet to be reached, if not surpassed, by current comedians. To the hearts of the Filipinos, regardless of their religious beliefs, age, educational attainment and social status, he is the true National Artist.

Rest in peace, Dolphy. Your antics will be missed.

Saturday, July 7, 2012

The Bible teaches us to...

Do everything in God's glory and to always be thankful of our blessings.

Don't make promises you cannot keep. Keep your integrity.

Be careful of false prophets. You will know them through their actions and their followers.

Not be lazy.

To not be a worrywart. Remember the old saying, "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that's why it is called present."

Do not point your fingers at your neighbors. Do not be judgmental.

Always see the goodness in others. Give others a chance to prove themselves.

Monday, July 2, 2012

The Oz Principle: Getting Results Through Individual and Organizational Accountability

As I am writing this post, I am attending a seminar about The Oz Principle: Getting Results Through Individual and Organizational Accountability by Roger Connors, Tom Smith and Craig Hickman.

I am not an attendee but a facilitator.

The authors relate the characters of the famous children's tale The Wizard of Oz namely Dorothy, Scarecrow, Cowardly Lion and Tin Man to the characteristics of the people in the organization possess.

Here is the book at a glance from eNotes:

With an unusual combination of cleverness and managerial perceptivity, the authors of THE OZ PRINCIPLE have latched upon an eye-catching yet appropriate metaphor to describe the state of America’s personal and corporate climate in the 1990’s. They believe Frank Baum’s delightful story of Dorothy’s adventures in the land of Oz can serve a blueprint for redesigning individual and corporate attitudes toward responsibility. Contemporary individuals must discover what Dorothy learned: The key to success is personal accountability.
Like many writers on contemporary business, Connors, Smith, and Hickman find the climate unhealthy. They claim, however, that many of the popular solutions offered by psychologists and management gurus are not really helpful, because they fail to get to the root of the problem. These authors suggest instead that people and corporations must learn to practice the Oz principle. Simply put, they believe “people hold inside themselves the power to rise above their circumstances and get the results they want.” Of course, few live by this principle. Instead, Americans are caught up in the miasma of victimology, content to blame outside forces for their personal and business failures. The way to success is not complicated. One need only follow the formula outlined in Baum’s fable: “see it” (recognize internal barriers to success), “own it” (admit personal responsibility for failure), “solve it” (create solutions one can implement oneself) and “do it” (follow through with actions that bring positive results). To be truly successful, people must act “above the line” that separates victims from achievers. Unfortunately, such behavior is rare, as the authors show by example after example.
If there is little in the way of revolutionary management theory in THE OZ PRINCIPLE, the authors nevertheless have much to offer in their analysis of individual and collective behavior patterns that threaten to drive corporations deeper into the malaise which seems to have beset American businesses. Useful, too, is their integration of the best of other management theories into a commonsense prescription for getting individuals to accept personal accountability and for helping corporations to get back on a winning track.

New Book: Dear John by Nicholas Sparks

I haven't read The Notebook but I have seen the movie which made me more curious about reading Nicholas Sparks's Dear John. I bought an e-book from Amazon and although I am only on the fifth page, I already began to feel the emotion of John Tyree towards life and the only woman he loves and will ever love--Savannah Curtis.

I could not believe I have neglected reading for a long time that I am actually reading books from years back only today.

It was actually made into a movie in 2009 starring Channing Tatum and Amanda Seyfried. Oh! The heart throbbing moments...

In My Reading List: Fifty Shades of Grey

Okay, I am now officially dying to read E. L. James's Fifty Shades of Grey--the first book of the trilogy. It is already top 1 in New York Times list of bestsellers.

This book is about a college graduate named Anastasia Steele who had a relationship based on contract with a manipulative billionaire Christian Grey. The relationship involves sex, bondage, domination and sadism.

This book is definitely for mature readers only. I will get my very own copy after I finish the book I am currently reading.


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