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Shrinking Women by Lily Myers

I am not into poetry but this winning piece by Lily Myers made me feel otherwise. This poem so profoundly explained how men and women differ in their views about personal image.Read on...Across from me at the kitchen table, my mother smiles over red winethat she drinks out of a measuring glass.
She says she doesn’t deprive herself,
but I’ve learned to find nuance in every movement of her fork.
In every crinkle in her brow as she offers me the uneaten pieces on her plate.
I’ve realized she only eats dinner when I suggest it.
I wonder what she does when I’m not there to do so.
Maybe this is why my house feels bigger each time I return; it’s proportional.
As she shrinks the space around her seems increasingly vast.
She wanes while my father waxes.
His stomach has grown round with wine, late nights, oysters, poetry.
A new girlfriend who was overweight as a teenager,
but my dad reports that now she’s “crazy about fruit.”It was the same with his parents;
as my grandmother became frail and angular
her hu…

No To Extravagant Company Christmas Parties

What can you say about having extravagant Christmas parties before we hit the holidays?
I know it only happens once in a year but ever since the typhoon Haiyan left Tacloban City in Leyte and other parts of Visayas literally flat, I feel like there is no sense having Christmas parties with tons of leftover foods and drinks when you see images of families who beg for food in the streets. I find no reason for spending parties in plush restaurants when there are still families who have no roofs to protect them from the weather.
I applaud those companies and families as well who, instead of having parties this yuletide season, opt to donate or spend a day or two of charity works.
I mean, at this point of economic hardships and calamities, we must be more sensitive to the feelings of others. Let us be more generous in giving to those who are most needy because I believe that if we are generous to others, God will also be generous to us.

New Book: Focal Point by Brian Tracy

It may be December and everyone is excited to have a vacation, but I am here in the office waiting for my turn to share what I have learned from reading chapters 5 to 7 of the book by Brian Tracy entitled Focal Point. We always do these kinds of stuff, reading portions of a book and share it to every employee. This activity is one of the programs of the human resource to train the employees. It is actually a two point process, the speakers (usually managers and department heads) get to learn new managerial skills, including public speaking, and at the same time rank and file employees get to hear their managers deliver the message.
This book hopefully will teach its readers on how to simplify their lives to double their productivity and to achieve their goals ultimately. There are 12 steps on how to do it but the point of this book is to make personal changes to allow new opportunities to come in, both in personal and career life.

Paul Walker dead at 40, the Philippines mourns

I was watching Beastly earlier this day when I heard in the news that Paul Walker is dead because of a car crash during an event to raise funds for the victims of typhoon Haiyan in the Philippines.
I am still in shock. Fast and Furious will never be the same again.
We will never forget you, Paul. Thank you in behalf of the Filipinos from all over the world.

Tuesday Inspiration

The Philippines After Super TyphoonYolanda (Haiyan)

It has been more than a week already since super typhoon Yolanda (Haiyan) made two land falls in the Southern part of the Philippines, particularly in Samar and Leyte. Since then, the lives of many, not only in the Philippines but also from around the world, has changed.

While the Visayas region was busy preparing for the typhoon, I was with my family, tucked safe and sound in the comforts of our homes in Luzon. Although the weather bureau warned us of storm signal number 1, it was relatively peaceful during the day. It was only at around 7 o'clock in the evening when the heavy rain poured with gusts of wind, but, it was not enough to cause me to be awake the entire evening.

Nobody  really knew or has not anticipated how strong the typhoon was until the news broke in the morning that most of the provinces in the Visayas region, especially Leyte, was severely damaged. The super typhoon literally flattened the entire province, leaving more than 4 thousand people dead and millions o…

The Guy Who Won't Commit

Are you in a relationship wherein you absolutely feel that he is the right guy for you and he also loves you dearly yet he just couldn't commit to being with you forever?
I know a lot of women has this issue with guys. I am sure that generically they will answer "I am not yet ready". But, what would you do if this "right guy" just won't commit? Would you say bye-bye or would you extend your patience and believe that he'll change his mind eventually?

Dining Alone in A Restaurant

Have you ever tried dining alone in a restaurant?
I have tried it a couple of times. The first time I did it felt like I am the loneliest person on the planet but I also felt freedom. After a doing it a couple of times, it gave me a sense of empowerment... like the thought of paying for an expensive meal all by myself is so fulfilling, I never have to wait for anyone to finish his or her meal before I stand, I don't have to think of topics to discuss over a meal, I get to enjoy my food because there's no time pressure... I mean, every woman should do it often. It also opens the door to meeting new friends and perhaps a future partner.

Would you pursue a relationship your parents doesn't approve of?

It is the 20th century but believe it or not, ending a relationship because the parents doesn't approve of it still happens. Parents have various reason for disapproval--religion, family background, social status, looks, etc. Regardless of the reason, still many couples separate ways because one of the partners value and respect their parents and are afraid of being disowned by their own family.
I have a colleague who had an unplanned pregnancy with her boyfriend for years. Despite being in a relationship with the guy for years, her parents are still against their relationship. When she discovered they were pregnant, they eloped but eventually decided to face their parents to sort things out. At first, the parents were furious to the point of really disowning her. Fortunately, her parents finally accepted the fact that she is pregnant with the guy they despise and were married soon after.
Another story that I would like to share has a sad ending. The guy decided to end his relati…

Would you kiss on the first date?

I feel like the most naive person in the world.

I overheard from fellow commuters earlier this day about their date rendezvous last weekend. I was actually shock to hear them talk about personal matter inside a public utility vehicle. Anyways, the girl is 10 years my junior.

Hold your calculators and let us not talk about my age.

She was telling her friend that she finally agreed to have a date with a guy who's been wooing him for quite some time. He likes the guy but she could not find the time to have a date. So, finally she did and she admitted to kissing the guy before they separated ways that memorable evening.

The question now is, would you kiss on a first date? How does it feel? Does that permit a new level of relationship?

Would you change religion for love?

I have a friend who had a relationship with a Muslim guy. My friend is Roman Catholic. Their relationship was good but when my friend had to go back to the Philippines for a vacation, her then-boyfriend married another Muslim woman because the guy's parents doesn't approve of her. It was a fixed marriage, a norm in where the guy lives. My friend told me that one of the factors why she did not expect the relationship to last is because she is of a different religion. Although the guy didn't ask her to change her religion, it was obvious on the part of the parents... it was a requirement.
Would you change religion for love? Does religion ever matter for a relationship to pursue and to last? Can't we just all respect each other's beliefs?

Miss Philippines Megan Young is Miss World 2013

After 36 years, the curse has finally broken and the Philippines finally won the blue crown. The first ever Filipina to win Miss World is Megan Young, the 23-year old actress and model from Pampanga. She bested Miss France (First Runner-up) and Miss Ghana (Second Runner-up) and the other 123 candidates today in Indonesia.
This is one momentous event for the Philippines. Everyone is proud right now just knowing that the beauty, talent and intelligence of a fellow Filipino was recognized internationally.
Congratulations, Megan Lynne Young!

Weddings and Wedding Dresses

Getting married? Have you picked up a wedding dress already? I have! I know it is still too early, heck, I am not even engaged, but who knows? It is better to be prepared at all times. Anyway, I have here two of my most favorite wedding dresses from Dress First.


This particular mermaid style dress is strapless with beaded lace overlay. The train satin tulle is long enough for dramatic entrance and exit photos. This is available in four colors (white, champagne, ivory and pink) but for a conservative church such as ours, it is white or ivory for me. This is currently on sale for $441.99 previously $579.

A princess will never be caught dead not owning even a single ball gown so if you are dreaming of a princess-like wedding, a ball gown type of wedding dress is perfect. I especially like this one-shoulder ball gown with organza train and ruffle flowers. I mean, it is a ball gown yet it is not overpowering the bride. This is currently on sale at $260.00 previously $322... the price clos…

The Downside of Being A Boss

When I was in college, all I could dream of is how to become an owner of my own business or to become a boss.

I started working as a clerk at age 21 in a local government office. I stayed there for about two years before deciding to work in a private company. It was a breathe of fresh air from the corrupt system of the government but I stayed only for about year. I was even asked a promotion but I refused because I believe that there's still a better chance for me out there. Finally, in 2007, I was hired as an executive secretary, also in a private company. After three years, I was promoted as a department head of IT and later on as a department head of marketing in addition to my IT duties. I have 5 people under my supervision.

My dream of becoming a boss came true. I thought before that it was the perfect job with all its perks--high salary, respect, authority, the sense of being in control of everything. It's not, because behind all the responsibilities and perks is account…

State of the Nation Address (SONA) 2013

President Benigno Simeon Aquino III delivered his 4th State of the Nation Address at the Batasang Pambansa Complex in Quezon City on July 22.
I think the best thing about this year's SONA is the President asking every Filipino, "What have you contributed so far?"
Read the entire speech after the jump.

Why business people do not face reality?

1. Leaders engage themselves in filtered information, they surround themselves with bureaucracy that thinks the same way they do. As a consequence, although they reach agreement, oftentimes that agreement is not contemporary and not in any way relevant to what's going on in their marketplace.
2. Leaders who engage in selective hearing, in other words, they hear what they want to hear but not necessarily what they should. 
3. Wishful thinking that when the business is off, the market will come back, they all do, they see the world through rose-colored glasses, they see the world as they want it and not as it is. 
4. Fear. There are cultures that suppress reality. They punish people that have views that are confrontational or that are different from the norm. Organizations that suffer from this don't get real information, as a consequence, you behave in a way that's not contemporary with what's going on around you.
This is from Larry Bossidy's speech. He is the auth…

10 Disney Management Principles

I dream of going to Disneyland even when I was still a kid. I grew up watching all the Disney princesses and I think that Mickey Mouse is the most lovable mouse ever. Indeed there is some sort of magic that makes people dream of going to the happiest place on earth. How Disney maintain that certain level that is beyond comparison is something that tickles my imagination.
When I went to the bookstore to find reference books for my research, I stumbled upon a book entitled The Disney Way by B. Capodagli and L. Johnson. I read the foreword and before I know it, I was already at the cashier paying.
I could not put the book down. It was amazing reading their management principle is almost the same as any other large companies, maybe, just maybe, the only thing that differentiates Disney from the bunch is that the have with them the most committed and happiest employees who believe in their vision to make Disneyland the happiest place on earth.
I will let you in on Disney's 10 Manageme…

Governance through common sense

Above all things, I think we need a government with common sense and true concern.
Would you build roads and bridges during the rainy season? I bet your answer is NO because common sense teaches us that concrete must be cured enough to make it stronger and the rainy days will impede the construction process.
If you see that a house is flooding because their drainage system was dumped with soil from the road widening project you are doing, would you help dig up the soil? I bet the answer is YES because we are human beings with the inherent gift of care and compassion.

Lowest of Lows

This week is just one of those days when I feel I am at my lowest...
Let me explain.
My house was flooded for days because the public works had to widen the road so they dumped soil to flatten and make even the surface. The excess soil covered our drainage system. When we asked the contractor to remove the soil so that water will not stagnate, the foreman said it's another contractor's job. I was so devastated to hear the lack of concern. That moment of truth hit me... it is not war but the lack of concern that will annihilate us. We were forced to spend money to hire someone who would dig up the soil to get rid of stagnant water that is attractive to dengue mosquito, leptospirosis and all other debilitating diseases.
Monday is the first day of work and the only day in our weekday wherein all department heads gather for a flag raising ceremony... I was expecting to receive some words of encouragement from our boss to get us through the week with enthusiasm, but to no avail. I…

Revenge

I am not the most righteous person but I have beliefs and I try to live God's teachings in whatever decisions I make. What I am trying to say is that I am the kind of person who doesn't like the idea of revenge.

When my son was hit and ran by a motorcycle about two years ago,  I was devastated and we couldn't find the person who did that to him, even until now. Remembering my son's condition at the Emergency Room still brings tears to my eyes but what can I do. I guess what hurts the most is that I could not give justice to my son and the thought of it breaks my heart into pieces. Despite the hurt, I could not sense revenge in my pain. I believe that in time, his action will have a counter effect on him. I also believe that if the things that we do, our endeavors, are rooted out of revenge, we will not succeed. God knows what is in our hearts even before we were born.

Revenge must come from Him alone, in His own time.

"Don't try to get revenge for yourselves, …

New Book: The Disney Way by Bill Capodagli and Lynn Jackson

I was so pissed and stressed earlier this day that I went to the bookstore to buy a book. I have been planning to have a grand vacation since time immemorial and in my to-see places list is Disneyland--the happiest place on earth--to experience the magic of being in the land of pure innocence. Having Disneyland in my mind made me buy this book--The Disney Way: Harnessing the Management Secrets of Disney in Your Company. I may not go to Disneyland any time soon but at least I get to take a look into the mind of the man who made a mouse famous--Walt Disney.

My Best Friend's Boyfriend is My Ex

Is there a rule not to have a relationship with your best friend's ex-boyfriend?
It didn't happen to me but I don't think I will be comfortable hanging out with my best friend with my ex-boyfriend as her new boyfriend tagging along. It will just bring in memories. Even if you have moved on completely, I can't say to my friend "I am happy for you two" when at the back of my mind I am really saying "It should be me". I will be too paranoid to think that he's maybe telling my best friend that she is better than I was when we were together. I think it will be awkward too for my best friend because she knows our better days.
When it happens to you, how are you going to deal with it? Would you still be friends with your best friend? Would you rather slowly drift away?

Random Clicks: Mount Sea Resort

My employer was so generous to treat us department heads to a summer escape in Mount Sea Resort in Marseilla St., Rosario, Cavite. It is around 30 minutes away from Manila and is accessible via Cavitex.
Aside from swimming pools, the resort also has a restaurant, a bar, billiards, KTV, zip line, obstacle course and hotel rooms. They have various affordable recreation packages for every group type to enjoy.

This is outside of one of the pools of the resort. It opens to the public at 7 in the morning. Guests are allowed to bring in foods. The road leads to the zip line and obstacle course. The zip line is around 500 meters and ends in another resort. A one-way ride is only 50 pesos.


The 5 feet deep pool has slides. Guests are allowed to wear white shirt or sleeveless and board shorts for female if they do not want to wear swimsuit and board shorts only for male.


The kiddie pool is 3 feet deep and it also has slides. The resort also offers swimming lessons on regular schedules.


The adul…

My Thoughts: Angelina Jolie's Preventive Double Mastectomy

Angelina Jolie recently revealed that she underwent double mastectomy last April as a preventive measure following the discovery that she is carrying a cancer gene. The chances for her to develop cancer dropped to 5% from 87%. Her mother died of ovarian cancer and seeing her mother throughout the battle and her six young children were the motivations for her to do the procedure. She also considers the removal of her ovaries.
I think it was heroic of her. It was a courageous feat to sacrifice the removal of a part of her femininity and choose to live longer for her to see her children grow up. I remember the famous Miss Universe 2013 question "What is the essence of being a woman?" that was confidently answered by Sushmita Sen of India. After 10 years, it was only now that it was answered most profoundly.
Her revelation made us think that we do have options for our health and our happiness. Sometimes, we have to give up a part of ourselves to someone or something that matter…

Election 2013: My Thoughts

I didn't bother to register at the COMELEC for this year's election because I couldn't find time in my busy schedule to take a leave. I was hoping the agency would have office on weekdays for someone as busy as I am, but to no avail. Somebody told me that if I will not register, I won't be able to vote. My mind was already set that I won't be able to exercise my right to decide for the future of our nation.
The campaign went on as scheduled. I was stuck in traffic for two hours on two separate occasions because of the long campaign caravans of opposing parties. It was one hell of an afternoon ride! I was late for important appointments.
A few days ago, I had a conversation with my sister about the ongoing campaign--how we both hate a particular campaign jingle, the allowed sizes for campaign posters, the tons of garbage it will leave after the election and the cunning ways a politician does and will do to win precious votes. I told my sister that I won't be ab…

New Book: Manuscript Found in Accra by Paulo Coelho

I am a Paulo Coelho fan. I like his style of writing, he simply puts me into a different world each time I read his book.
I went to a bookstore and found this book on the featured rack. I was immediately drawn to take a look and then found myself walking towards the queue at the cashier to make a purchase. I could have bought it on Kindle but holding a real book would be a nice change even for a while.


I am currently on page 50 and so far so good. Here is an excerpt from the book that is inspiring.


Have a great day everyone!

Summer Escapade: Hundred Islands, Pangasinan

It was my second time to go to Hundred Islands, Pangasinan and the first time to tag along my son, my older sister and niece. It was a fun-filled day and I am sure my son had a blast! We arrived at Vista de las Islas (the hotel where we stayed last year) at around 1 in the morning, had a few hours of sleep and we're off to island hopping.


You can tell by the look on his face that he is enjoying his first boat ride. I am so proud of my son! 


I am hoping to visit again next year! There's still a lot of things to do and explore in Hundred Islands.

When life is a bit shaky, say these words...

PSALMS 46:1-3
God is our refuge and strength, a help always near in times of great trouble. That's why we won't be afraid when the world falls apart, when the mountains crumble into the center of the sea, when its waters roar and rage, when the mountains shake because of its surging waves. Selah.

We have a new Pope!

We have one happy new pope here!
Cardinal Jorge Mario Bergoglio is our new pope and he will be called Pope Francis. He is the first Latin American pope and the first from the Jesuit order to be elected on the highest seat in Catholic Church.
Here are some facts about Pope Francis...
1. Rather than living in archbishop's palace, he chose to live in an apartment and ride a bus instead of a limousine to go to work.
2. He cooks his own meals.
3. He advocates social justice. He strongly opposes same-sex marriage, abortion and euthanasia.
4. He lives with only one lung. His other lung was removed when he was still young due to infection.
5. He doesn't have a Vatican experience.
6. He was one of the runners-up of Pope Benedict XVI during the 2005 conclave.
7. He was accused of kidnapping two priests in Argentina in the 1970s. No case was filed.
8. He speaks Italian and German aside from his native tongue Spanish.
God bless!

Find strength in the Lord

PSALMS 94:18 Whenever I feel my foot slipping, your faithful love steadies me, Lord.
I was searching last night of a Bible passage about love using a Bible app in my iPad. I guess more than a hundred passages matched with the word love but of all that I was able to read, it is this passage that made an impact on me.
I hope this passage will inspire you today and for always.

Random Clicks: Marines Beach Resort, Ternate, Cavite

Who would have thought that hidden behind the tall camp fence and heavily guarded perimeter is a beach?! Not just a beach, but an actual resort wherein you and your family and friends can enjoy the crystal blue water and white sand. The Marines Beach Resort or Boracay de Cavite is located at Ternate, Cavite, 2 to 2 1/2 hours away from Manila. At 100 pesos entrance fee and 350 pesos cottage fee, you get to experience the beach at its best. The resort is open everyday except during Balikatan Exercises of the US and Philippine Marines.
Here is how you get there...



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Random Clicks: Tanza Oasis Hotel and Resort

Are you planning to have one last summer escapade before the season officially ends? Well, I have discovered a place where you can relax and be a VIP even for a day--Oasis Hotel and Resort in Capipisa, Tanza, Cavite .
















I was not able to take photos of the beach because it rained. I will go there again, definitely. And next time I will bring my camera. I only used my cellphone to get photos of the hotel while my officemate talks to the manager.
To know more about the place and make reservations or inquire about rates, click on the links.

Does Sabah really belong to the Philippines?

Does Sabah really belong to the Philippines?

The Sabah sandoff is a worldwide buzz and while everyone else is giving their commentaries about it without the full knowledge of the facts, let us take time to review our history.

In the end, let us all pray that this struggle will end in the most peaceful and diplomatic way possible, anyway, Malays and Filipinos are borne out of the same race.

Corruption

Corruption is worse than prostitution. The latter might endanger the morals of an individual, the former variably endangers the morals of the entire country. - Karl Kraus
Our country is corrupt. Which country is not? Corruption is everywhere. It is a plague. It has a cure. 
If a country is to be corruption free and become a nation of beautiful minds, I strongly feel there are three key societal members who can make a difference. They are the father, the mother and the teacher. - Abdul Kalam
 There are laws, moral and legal, and only a few favors righteousness over corruption.

The duty of the youth is to challenge corruption. - Kurt Cobain
We can still do something. We must be the change we want to happen in the world.

Love

Love is that feeling of rest and contentment beside him.

Marketing 101

I work as a marketer, and advertising is an inevitable task in my profession. Aside from conceptualizing the look and feel of an advertisement, our department is also responsible to look for contractors who are excellent at printing posters, campaigns, and all other printed marketing materials. Just recently, our department had a hard time conceptualizing a promo for a specific new service, it was good to know that aside from poster printing, our contractor (Visit the site here). also had great ideas to share with us. We went with their suggestion and the campaign went so well that we are planning to make it an annual event. I do not have a bachelor's degree in business, but I do not consider it as a disadvantage for me. My being chosen to work in this field has brought me so much experience and it is continuously inspiring me to learn new things. It really doesn't matter if you do not have a degree in business, for as long as you have the guts, the ambition and the courage…

Sony Smartwatch Gen 1 and Sony Ericsson Xperia Neo V

It is now here! Finally! After five sleepless nights, my Sony Smartwatch Gen 1 and Sony Ericsson Xperia Neo V has arrived! It was delivered within 5 days at the office. I was actually out when my staff informed me that I have a package waiting for me. 







How to spot a pathological liar?

My patience measures from here to the moon and I rarely confront someone in the office about bad behavior because I am mad, until today. I just learned that one person in the office is spreading lies about me and my department. Everything that this person said were complete lies. I was furious. I had to do something, I had to correct the lies.
I went to their office to ask about what she was telling. She could not look me in the eyes and her gestures were completely inappropriate to what she's saying. She even changed the topic so that I may forget about the real issue. She's already caught red handed but still she's denying everything, even pointing others to escape. I don't see the point anymore of talking to her. I ended the confrontation with these words:
"Don't say anything if what you are going to say are lies."
She has been involved in so many rumor mongering issues and was given disciplinary actions it but she still does the same things over and …

Sony Smartwatch Gen 1

A totally random purchase from an online shopping website. I just thought this would be a great accessory for my android phone since I don't like to always look at my phone to check for notifications and messages. The Sony Smartwatch was introduced last year. There is already a 2nd generation in the market and it sells for a little over $200.

A letter from my heart to yours...

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Happy Valentine's Day!

Bob Marley knows if you have fallen in love

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around.  You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.  You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.  When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.  They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.  Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.  There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around.  You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for wh…

What the Bible says about being a role model...

Beyonce Super Bowl 2013 Halftime Performance

I am not a fan of American football but I am definitely a fan of Beyonce. Her halftime performance at the Super Bowl  made me like her even more! She is such an amazing artist.

Random Clicks: Balite Falls Resort

Our team had a photoshoot in Balite Falls Resort. The public resort is located at Brgy. Banay Banay in Amadeo--the Coffee Town of Cavite. It is approximately 1.5 hours drive from Manila. The closest route to the resort is through Cristano M. Delos Reyes Ave. in Brgy. Maggahan, Gen. Trias. If you want to know more about Balite Falls Resort, visit their Facebook page here.

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The story of 20 toes

A little something to tickle your funny bones and imagination. Have a great day everyone!

My Joy, My Life at 5

My son was born on January 18, 2008 at around 10:15 PM via Caesarian Section. He weighed 7.9 pounds, pretty large boy. 
After five years, I could still vividly remember the first time I held him when the doctor put him on my chest when he came out. I was still at the operating room. I was groggy because of anesthesia, but, I could still remember his loud cry, his pinkish and wrinkly skin, and his angelic face.
He is such a darling! He is my life and the only person who brings constant happiness in my life.