Friday, April 18, 2014

Reflections: Forgive and Forget

It's Holy Week and I succumb myself into watching the television with my son. I have to take this opportunity to spend the long vacation with him because I have a really busy schedule. Yesterday's show was about the 7 Last Words, the first word of Jesus Christ is what really brought me into deep reflection.

Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. (Luke 23:34)

A married couple shared about their struggles in life. The husband was a drug addict, philander, and plainly irresponsible father. For ten years the wife endured everything but her faith and trust in the Lord did not falter. One day, the wife's prayer was answered. Her husband completely turned his back away from his old ways and sought the Lord's hands for healing. 

What struck me about the couple's story is the wife's commitment to their marriage. Yes, her husband drifted away from them but she remained steadfast and loving. She was ready to forgive and forget everything for the sake of love and her vow. And in everything, there was God.

I remembered when I was starting a new life with a fiance eight years ago. Before we committed to living together, we used to go to church to receive God's blessing. We didn't marry and we both agreed to that. What we had was a vow that we will never leave each other. We started off just fine but when I became pregnant, he began drifting away from me. It was not easy. I would receive news about him doing things. There came a point wherein he doesn't sleep in our house for days. There were times wherein I would prepare dinner only to find out that he will not come home. I would ask him his whereabouts but he won't answer. It was a mental torture for two years until our son was born. There were nights I would just cry myself to sleep while praying that he will come home and be like the way he used to be. But, he did not. We parted ways without even discussing what happened between us. 

After years of contemplating and insisting on myself that I was not at fault, it was only yesterday, through the couple's sharing that I realized that I, too, have broken my commitment to the relationship. I knew he was in trouble and he didn't know what he's doing but instead of me understanding and reaching out for him even more, I, too, drifted away.

Have I forgiven him? I have, but the pain is still there. It took me years to forgive the man I used to love and it's not easy to forget the many years of my life spent with him. I pray to God that one day, He will completely heal my heart from the pain of the past. I know that God will help me pick up the broken pieces without me hurting. I pray that one day, in God's perfect time, we'd see each other again without hurting but with only words of forgiveness and acceptance that there are things that are not meant to be because God has better plans.

Saturday, April 5, 2014

Random Clicks: Cebu!

The view of Mactan Island from our boat.

I can't believe I forgot to post my first ever Cebu trip with my sisters! We went there last October 2013. It almost didn't happen because Cebu and Bohol were rocked by a magnitude 7.2 earthquake. We were so scared because of the reports of aftershocks but we can no longer move the date because my younger sister will be back in the US the following week. So we went, with all courage and prayers for guidance and safety. 

We stayed in a cheap but decent hotel in Mandaue, it is about 30 to 40 minute taxi drive from Mactan Cebu International Airport. Although there were many public transportations, we opted to ride a taxi for convenience. If I remember it correctly, we paid a little over 6 thousand pesos for two family rooms for three days. Not bad, eh?

The Magellan's Cross.

Day 1 of our stay started with a tour at the Magellan's Cross in the compound of Basilica del Sto. Nino in Cebu City. There were many tourists like us but I guess it's fewer compared a few weeks ago before the earthquake. The overall feel of the city is much like Manila, only it is cleaner. We spend the entire afternoon at the Ayala Center.

Snorkeling the crystal clear water of Cebu.

Day 2 was beach day. There are a lot of resorts in Cebu. We went to Cebu Beach Club for the kids to enjoy both the pool and the beach. Their fee is reasonable, I think for 150 pesos each. And it is consumable. We ordered pizza and it tastes great! What's not so good about our experience on day 2 is the expensive boat ride. We paid 8 thousand pesos for less than half a day of ride and we didn't even go island hopping... it is purely snorkeling and it is not even peak season! In Hundred Islands, Pangasinan we only paid 1,500 pesos for a whole day tour with authentic island hopping experience!

Can you gues on my son's face if he enjoyed the food?

After a disappointing boat ride, we went to Rosewil's BBQ for a refill of carbohydrates. We're Asians and no rice means war. We ordered seafood dishes and barbecue and boy we were so full! 

My son posing before conquering the zip line.

That night, my younger sister and her husband brought my son and our two nieces to Crown Regency Hotel in Cebu City for an extreme zip line experience. My son was so brave! And I was so worried! He enjoyed it so much.

A tourist never leaves without buying a souvenir t-shirt.

Day 3 was shopping day. I opted to stay in the hotel because I was so tired. I just asked them to shop for me and besides we have to be at the airport at 12 noon for our flight back to Manila. A tour in Cebu will not be complete without bringing home danggit and dried squid. 

So there you have it. I hope you enjoy your summer!


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